Patience is needed now more than ever. There’s a place and time for impatience and passivity, this isn’t it. I don’t claim to have all the answers when it comes to patience. I’m no patience-guru with encrypted parables which unlock the key to the universe. My post is to help you find patience, nothing more, nothing less.
Patience and passivity aren’t the same. The two may appear to be similar but there’s nothing in common between the two. Having said that, impatience and passivity don’t go together either. An impatient person wants instant gratification and a patient person can wait and usually does wait for results. A passive person? They have no will or drive. They will do without instead of waiting for it.
Passivity is a resigned state. While passivity leads to a disempowered state of mind, patience allows for a dynamic state of acceptance and empowerment. It’s the difference between playing the role of a victim and taking charge of a situation.
Passivity is the lack of will; it allows outside influences to guide and shape you. Passive people refuse to make decisions and gives into being taken cared of. This, in of itself can be a dangerous situation. If the passive person — not a passive-aggressive person — starts to accept being taken cared of as an acceptance of sorts —a pathological need for attention — and as a positive sign of acceptance then an abusive relationship could ensue. This isn’t necessarily physical abuse but about a dynamic of extremes, domination and submission. It is about giving and withholding, also in the extreme.
If someone in the relationship is more assertive, make sure the assertiveness doesn’t turn into somebody being taken advantage of. Your needs, wants, and opinions are just as important as your partners and — thought they may always have a good reason why it should be their way — you need to stand up for yourself.
The passive person puts up a façade which makes them appear to care about others. They will always tell others to be patient. The passive person uses…